Sahih al-Bukhari 5124

Hadith text

Ibn `Abbas said: "Hint your intention of marrying' is made by saying (to the widow) for example: "I want to marry, and I wish that Allah will make a righteous lady available for me.' " Al-Qasim said: One may say to the widow: 'I hold all respect for you, and I am interested in you; Allah will bring you much good, or something similar 'Ata said: One should hint his intention, and should not declare it openly. One may say: 'I have some need. Have good tidings. Praise be to Allah; you are fit to remarry.' She (the widow) may say in reply: I am listening to what you say,' but she should not make a promise. Her guardian should not make a promise (to somebody to get her married to him) without her knowledge. But if, while still in the Iddat period, she makes a promise to marry somebody, and he ultimately marries her, they are not to be separated by divorce (i.e., the marriage is valid)

Ibn Abbas ne kaha: 'Nikaah ka iraada ishare mein zaahir karna' iska matlab hai (biwaa se) kehna, jaise: 'Main nikaah karna chahta hoon, aur ummeed rakhta hoon ke Allah mere liye ek neik aurat muhaiya karega.' Al-Qasim ne kaha: Koi biwaa se keh sakta hai: 'Main aapki bahut izzat karta hoon, aur aapme dilchaspi rakhta hoon; Allah aapko bahut bhalaai dega,' ya isi tarah ki koi baat. Ata ne kaha: Insaan ko apna iraada ishare mein zaahir karna chaahiye, khule aam nahi. Koi keh sakta hai: 'Mujhe kuch zaroorat hai. Khush-khabri ho. Allah ka shukr hai, aap dobara nikaah karne ke laayak hain.' Wo (biwaa) jawab mein keh sakti hai, 'Main sun rahi hoon aap kya keh rahe hain,' magar use koi waada nahi karna chaahiye. Uske sarparast ko bhi (kisi se) uski marzi ke bagair koi waada nahi karna chaahiye. Magar agar wo Iddat ke dauraan hi kisi se nikaah ka waada kar de, aur wo aakhir mein usse nikaah kar le, to unhein talaaq dekar alag nahi kiya jaayega (yaani nikaah jaayez hoga).

Sahih al-Bukhari 5124 · Book 67, Hadith 60